Oh, Won’t You Stay With Me?

It’s another song post from me. I can’t help it. Music—soulful, heart-breaking music—is the sound of us. It’s the sound of our deepest needs and desires. Songs like “Stay With Me,” by Sam Smith, is one of them. I know this has been around for a couple years now, but really look at the lyrics again:

Guess it’s true, I’m not good at a one-night stand
But I still need love ’cause I’m just a man
These nights never seem to go to plan
I don’t want you to leave, will you hold my hand?

I love that line:  “I’m not good at a one-night stand.” One-night stands, when folks are expected to have sex and feel no human or emotional connection at all: the standard of our society. I think a lot of people aren’t good at one-night stands. I think we really do want something more; we want connection, and we want it to last for more than one night. Fleeting pleasure isn’t enough.

Oh, won’t you stay with me?
‘Cause you’re all I need
This ain’t love, it’s clear to see
But darling, stay with me

Sam Smith sounds so sad when he cries this out, like it hurts him. The desperation is a kind that we somehow understand, even if we haven’t been in the same situation. He knows that just one night isn’t love, and he’s right; yet, he craves what love is anyway—the foreverness. Honestly, I could go in circles talking about how much I love this song and what it says about who we are.  The sadness and passion of a song that recognizes what a one-night stand lacks and what a heart actually cries out for.

There is more to life, Sam Smith! There is no slut-shaming here, no judgement, no labels—I just feel for you, Sam. I understand your longing for foreverness, and it’s not your fault that you look in the wrong places; this is where our world is telling us to search. Keep searching. Keep singing.

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